Making a comeback with life updates :)

Hey hey, I just realized that I’ve been gone for this amazing platform for more the 4 months, so I’m back from my mini hiatus, sorry.

Anyway, an update on what I’ve been doing since I had disappeared:

• Sketching – Sketching is something that I’ve always wanted to do but never had the motivation? mood? idk… I just couldn’t get myself to sit and start. I once jokingly told my brother, “If I had started drawing when I was a kid, I’d be an artist by now” and the next day he gifted me a sketchbook (bless him). I think that was the push I needed because now, I regularly sketch (finally)

My first ever sketch.

• Exercising – I’ve never been an active person. Always sitting, either to read, write, study sketch, or waste time on the internet. I hate going out and am indoors 70% of the time which explains why I was turning into a potato. So I took matters into my own hands, saved up, got my gym membership and am now trying to workout regularly. I feel too lazy at times but meh.

• Stanning BTS – One of the best things that has happened in my life. Finding BTS was a life changing moment. They are so inspiring and have influenced almost all of my ‘life updates’. They make me wanna better myself and live to my full potential. Most importantly, they’ve thought me how to love myself and how important it is.

• Creating a YT channel – This one is still in the planning process. But basically, the plan is to make a YT channel with my best friends and talk about our day, life in general, vlog, and show life through the perspective of 3 different people.

• Mentorship programme – I entered into a mentorship programme as a mentee. My mentor will give me advices, guidance, help me with what I should do, how and help me unlock my true potential. I still don’t know much about it but we have our induction on the 5th of August. Hope it goes well.

• Learning driving – This is by far, the most scariest thing I’ve tried. I mean, I’m not scared of driving. Its infact, very enjoyable. What I’m scared of is the roads in Mumbai and the crazy people who drive around me. If you don’t already know this, Mumbai traffic is worse than NY traffic and almost no one here follows traffic rules. It’s a nightmare.

• Skin care routine – Recently, I’ve been getting a lot of acne breakouts on my face and it scared me into action. I now follow a proper skin care routine, and include detoxification once in two weeks.

• Strengthening bonds – I used to reply late to messages, leave people on read, back out of hangout plans and ignore calls. Basically, I was the worst friend/person to contact/ ever! I knew it’s a bad thing but I was so caught up with something or the other, god. Been working on that, and trying to reconnect with people whom I lost contact with.

• PEN PAL! – I made a pen pal. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do and now finally, I did it. My first ever pen pal. I’m so excited, I can’t. I’m going to shop for art supplies and stationary tomorrow. I also have to click pictures of famous places around Mumbai. I’m planning on adding that with the letters and some goodies because she loves traveling and photography. I can’t wait to get my happy mail (we’re doing it through snail mail).

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Be Willing.

Be willing to step outside your comfort zone once in a while; take the risks in life that seem worth taking. The ride might not be as predictable if you’d just planted your feet and stayed put, but it will be a heck of a lot more interesting.

Let it heal.

My counselor told me something really meaningful and profound recently.

She said, “It’s important to remember that when you’re depressed, you have to nurse yourself and be extra gentle towards yourself. An athlete wouldn’t break an ankle and then force themselves to run with that ankle. They rest as it heals and do not think “I am a failed athlete”. Instead, they think, “Right now something isn’t working right, so I’ll take care of myself until it does.”

Just like a broken bone, depression can change the way your daily life plays out, and pushing yourself too hard and getting frustated when you don’t feel better is just like trying to run on that broken ankle and getting frustated when it doesn’t heal.

Give it time.

Let it heal.

Breathe. This will pass.

Breathe.

You’re going to be okay.

Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before.

You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared, and you’ve survived.

Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you.

They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually, they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience.

I know it feels unbearable right now, but keep breathing, again and again.

This will pass.

I promise it will pass.

The real self care 101.

Everyone needs self care. There’s no “Ugh, who needs self care, it sounds like girly stuff I wouldn’t be caught dead doing” or “It’s unnecessary”.

Imagine this: You’re overwhelmed at work. You have a ton of assignments piling up at home, submission dates are creeping up on you at an alarming rate and your calendar is packed with overdue tasks. To make room for all of this stuff, you skip lunch, stop going out, and forget about your social life entirely. When we’re stressed, self care is usually the first thing to throw out of the window. And that only makes things so much worse.

It’s easy to neglect taking care of ourselves because when we’re busy and overwhelmed, even a small break feels like a luxury. So actually taking time to eat lunch, go out, and hang out with friends? That just feels like slacking.

There is a misconception that self care is all about slush bomb baths, massages, yoga, expensive candles and buying nice meals. Because what does self care mean to someone who is broke, struggling and burdened with hardships, right? The beautiful concept of self care is commercialized beyond imagination.

So, here are a few realistic self care tips for us broke people:

  1. Call a friend. Preferably a friend you haven’t spoken to from a long time. Talk about the fun times you had together. It actually makes you feel good.
  2. Take a walk outside. Feel the warmth of the sun on your face. Or the feel of the breeze flowing around you. Whatever works.
  3. Delete any apps that you haven’t used for more than a week. Decluttering your phone is just as important as decluttering your desk.
  4. Declutter your desk while you’re at it.
  5. Find a sacred spot; a view you love or a place that makes you feel greatly alive. Visit it as often as possible.
  6. Go to the beach and wiggle your toes in the sand.
  7. Re-read your favorite novel.
  8. Listen to uplifting music; something that you can sing out loud and swing your hips to.
  9. Since it’s finally sweater weather (yaaayyyyy!!), wear your comfiest hoodie or cover yourself in your fluffy blanket and sip on coffee while reading a book.
  10. The last few months, I’ve been loving coloring books. Maybe a little silly, but so awesome. Seriously, give it a try.

Look, not every one of these self care ideas will be your cup of tea.

They won’t all be the perfect antidote to what you’re going through. But I hope that this is enough inspiration to get you started. What I want you to know most is that you have the power to claim self care as your ishh. The inspiration here is just a starting point. There is no stopping once you start.

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